Trust is key in any relationship, and I have a hard time trusting people when I first meet them. I have my reasons. Trust isn’t something that can just come about, it’s something that you have to earn. You have to earn someones trust and vise versa. Sometimes people can act all sweet and innocent when really they just use the right words to win you over. I was in a situation like this once where a guy had said all the things a girl wanted to hear, but in between all those words it was just a conversation full of lies. Which was okay because in the end it just made me a stronger person, and taught me how to not believe everything I hear. In a way, I’m thankful I had that guy cross my path.
Here’s a summary of the story: I was meeting up with one of my good friends, who had brought back one of his friends to our hometown. First reaction and thoughts: I thought the other guy was cute, and he looked super nice. Well, every girl who watches those sappy chick flicks always wants something like that to happen to them in real life. Like, spontaneously dancing in the middle of the street or those late night walks where you just never want the night to end. Yeah, the cheesy stuff but every girl wants something like that to happen. Well, it happened. This guy got out his phone and started playing “Why Don’t We Just Dance” by Josh Turner. He then grabbed my hand and asked me to dance. Super cute and it was just like the movies, spontaneously dancing. So after that we started talking constantly, and he would use all these cute pickup lines that made people melt inside. He would help me with my homework and we would Skype a lot. Well, we talked for about five months when my best friend told me he had been lying about having a girlfriend for a while. It put a damper on my mood, and it hurt knowing that I wasn’t worth the truth. Although, the day after that happened it had no effect on me. I decided not to go see him that weekend like I had planned and made other plans instead. I was happy to finally know the truth and to gain knowledge in the trust area.
Now, I’m more cautious when it comes to relationships and trust, not just for me but also for the important people around me. I’m very opinionated when it comes to my friends relationships, I don’t hold anything back. In order to build a relationship you must have trust, if there’s no trust all you do is play games.
“A relationship without trust is like having a phone with no service. And what do you do with a phone with no service? You play games.”
Before you get too serious in a relationship don’t be afraid to ask a few people what they think of the other person. And if they have any suspicions take them into consideration. No matter how much you don’t want to believe it, go find out for yourself if those suspicions are right. Don’t be afraid to ask questions either to the person you’re “talking” to. Getting to know someone truly, and hearing all their stories can slowly start to build the trust you need. Don’t rush things, take it slow. The more you rush the less you know. It takes time to build the steady and stable relationship you want.
I wanted to share my story to give people an example to not believe everything you hear. Honesty is the best policy.
Do you have problems trusting people? Any stories?